North Baltimore, Ohio

July 19, 2024 6:02 pm

The District Update – Water Shed
Need A Chiropractor
BVHS New Womens Health
Size Update
Amplex Fiber June 2024
Sept. 2023
June 2023 Left Rail
Logo & Info Aug 2023
Ol’ Jenny
Logo
OB You’re Expecting
Resize
Temporary
Sept. 2023

Guest Columnist: Dr. Missy, Feelings Helper

Managing Mad

 

Helping children and adolescents to manage the emotion of anger begins in the toddler stage and continues until they reach adulthood. How do your kids manage the powerful feeling of anger?

 

The emotion of anger serves a purpose. Anger challenges us to stand up against injustice, unfairness, and to promote human rights for freedom. The emotion of anger helps to pass laws to protect citizens and to protect innocent children. Using anger as an energy force we can peacefully prevent and speak out against discrimination, racism, and prejudice through organizations and agencies. When a group of people join together—things can be changed and improved.

 

There are reasons for becoming angry—someone tries to hurt you or your family or friends. Like you, I would try to protect myself and my loved ones. When someone damages our property, we become mad and require restitution. When someone steals our possessions we experience feelings of anger and call the police.

 

Anger can be influenced and caused by inside or outside factors and/or a combination of both. We can be angry with people or happenings. For example, I may be angry with my friend or I may be angry due to being stranded along side a highway with a flat tire. I can also be angry with myself for personal reasons.

 

There are five sources of anger according to Peter Holmes:

  1. Safety and Well-Being – Fear for your own or someone else’s safety, either real or imagined.
  2. Power – Loss or threat to your power and control
  3. Perfection and Pride – When someone or something implies you or one of your family members are not good enough.
  4. Self-Sufficiency and Autonomy – When someone or something implies you don’t have the ability to do things on your own.
  5. Self-Esteem, Feeling Important, Status – When someone or something puts you down and makes you feel unimportant.

 

The hormonal changes in the body can affect moods and the emotion of anger. A child’s body is changing, growing, and developing. Learning to express and manage anger appropriately and in a healthy way is a part of maturing.

 

Temperament and personality may influence the emotion of anger; however blaming angry actions solely on temperament is a copout. Individuals with red hair can learn to manage their anger.

 

We learn about anger from our parents, guardians, caretakers, role models, culture, society, and media. The emotion of anger can be a combination of feelings: anger, frustration, sadness, fear, embarrassment. It helps to identify what emotions are mixed in with anger.

 

As we grow and develop, we learn more about our feelings. We learn to understand our emotions and the emotions of others. Being in elementary, middle, and high school is an opportunity to learn how to be in relationships with others and how to develop and practice social skills. We learn by observing our parents/guardians, siblings, relatives, friends, peers, teachers, and other people.

 

Think about the last time you were angry. What other emotions did you feel? Anger can show up in the expression of indignation, resentment, jealousy, antagonism, sarcasm and hostility. We can feel hurt, rejected, insulted, betrayed, and abandoned. Anger can be hidden underneath other feelings.

 

Out of control anger can be frightening and precede verbal, emotional, and physical abuse and violence. Rage has the ability to destroy relationships and harm others. Anger is a kin to fear which is part of the basic fight, flight, or freeze survival response for human beings.

 

Anger is a strong emotion. The key is to learn to manage the emotion of anger without hurting ourselves or others. Parents need to manager their anger before expecting children to manage their mad.

 

Please visit a child therapist if your child is experiencing out of control anger.

 

Dr. Missy, Ph.D., is a feelings helper, child therapist, consultant, educator, and self-syndicated columnist. She provides therapeutic services at Affirmations, Columbus, Ohio. Contact her at [email protected].

 

Resize
Size Update
Sept. 2023
Sept. 2023
Logo & Info Aug 2023
June 2023 Left Rail
Temporary
Breast Cancer Treatment Rail Ad
OB You’re Expecting
Logo
Briar Hill Health Update
Ol’ Jenny

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

NBX powered by PANDA Technologies
NBLS Website